Tomatoes aren’t for everyone. They are certainly for me, but that is neither here nor there. A dislike of a certain food is no reason for a rift or any resentment within a household of chefs or foodies. Instead, it's a prompt to make delicious foods that everyone can enjoy without anyone feeling deprived. This Bolognese, for example, uses not a single tomato. No tomato sauce, nor paste, nor canned, nor jarred, nor fresh. Blasphemous? Well, try it first, and then decide.
If you’re keen, you could add half of the Parmesan just before serving, and give the whole mix another good stir, but letting each individual dish out their own amount of Parmesan is just another way to extend the olive branch of tolerance in a household of different pallets. Please enjoy respectfully.